This is an excerpt from my book, GRAFTED: Embracing Torah, which can be purchased on Amazon.
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The Ten Commandments (The Big Ones)
And God (Elohim) spake all these words, saying, (Exodus 20:1)

Exodus 19:25 states, “So Moses went down unto the people,
and spake unto them.” This is the third time Moses came down from
Mount Sinai (between Exodus 19:3 and Exodus 34:29, Moses goes
up to meet Elohim atop Mount Sinai and comes back down seven
times – not bad for an eighty-year-old guy).
The verse following Exodus 19:25 (Exodus 20:1) states, “God
spake all these words…” so it appears Elohim audibly spoke to all the Israelites.
This seems to be confirmed in verses 18–22:
18 And all the people saw the thunderings, and the lightnings, and the noise of the trumpet, and the mountain smoking: and when the people saw it, they removed, and stood afar off. 19 And they said unto Moses, Speak thou with us, and we will hear: but let not God speak with us, lest we die. 20 And Moses said unto the people, Fear not: for God is come to prove you, and that his fear may be before your faces, that ye sin not. 21 And the people stood afar off, and Moses drew near unto the thick darkness where God was. 22 And the LORD said unto Moses, Thus thou shalt say unto the children of Israel, Ye have seen that I have talked with you from heaven.
The people in the valley were so shaken by the experience that
they did not want Elohim to speak to them again (I’m sure there was
a lot of reverb and pyrotechnics). The word Elohim is used because
His Message was for more than just the Israelites. This tells me that
what we refer to as the Ten Commandments are so important that
Elohim felt the need to personally tell them to His people. This is
why I wanted to start with them.
5. “Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may
be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth
thee” (Exodus 20:12).
This one has a reward. Do it, and you get a nice prize.
Having said this, it is not always easy to do this. Many have horrible memories of abusive or absent parents. Our job is to model Christ to our parents, our children, our friends – everyone. If we are a good example, it helps to bring people to a relationship with Christ. If we model the world, how can we expect people to want to genuinely love and honor Yeshua?
They didn’t have the example of Christ yet in Exodus, but they still taught that the relationships one has with parents, children, and others is important. Reuben was Jacob’s firstborn and was entitled to the double share of the inheritance, but he lost that right when he dishonored his father by sleeping with one of his concubines. Joseph loved and honored his father in all things and ended up with the double portion by having two of the tribes of Israel named after his two sons (1 Chronicles 5:1). Isaac, Jacob, and (dare I say it?) Yeshua were all second born but received the honor blessing. When Yahweh speaks to Moses from the burning bush, He tells Moses,
21 When thou goest to return into Egypt, see that thou do all those wonders before Pharaoh, which I have put in thine hand: but I will harden his heart, that he shall not let the people go. 22 And thou shalt say unto Pharaoh, Thus saith the LORD, Israel is my son, even my firstborn.
(Exodus 4:21–22)
This Commandment is repeated, prominently, several times throughout Scripture. When Yahweh is speaking to Moses, He commands that the Israelites be holy, fear (yare’ [H3372] – revere) their parents (the mother is mentioned before the father in this verse, emphasizing that both are to be equally revered) and keep the sabbath – in that order (Leviticus 19:1-3).
When Christ confronted the Pharisees, his response to their accusation was to accuse them of transgressing the fifth Commandment by changing it through their traditions (Matthew 15:3-6).
In Ephesians 6, the apostle Paul declared that this is “the first Commandment with promise”. He also admonished fathers to not provoke (parorgizo [G3949] – enrage) their children but rather to “bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:1-4). A child is more likely fail to honor Yahweh if they are not trained to do so by their parents’ words and actions.
The relationships one has with parents, children, and others is important – one is less likely to have a meaningful relationship with the Father if all their human relationships are a dumpster fire..
We are to do the Law despite the way it is perceived by others. Unfortunately, the Word does not give a clear understanding of what is required to “honor Mom and Dad.” If Yeshua did something for his Father, then it is a good example for us also. Remember, our children not only listen to what we say but they also look to what we do.
Here is a partial list of things that one can do to show love and
respect:
- Pray for your parents.
- Follow their guidance when under their roof, and consider their guidance when you are on your own.
- Show restraint and respect.
- If they were abusive, do not render abuse against them (be better than they were). If they are abusive, defend yourself from physical harm.
- Care for them in their old age. They may need to move to a nursing home, but you can still visit, share meals, and engage with them.
- Forgive them. It may be impossible to forget what they may have done to you, but the Word does not ask us to forget (that would be reckless), only to forgive. Don’t let the anguish of the past continue to devastate your present and your future.
- Do anything else you know that will bless them.
If your parents are abusive, know that this Commandment does not demand you take that abuse. Distancing yourself from them is more honorable than striking them, though defending yourself is honorable also. The Word never instructs us to be a punching bag nor any other object of abuse.
[continue to the 6th Commandment – Do Not Murder]
[1st Commandment – No Other Gods]
[2d Commandment – No Graven Images]
[3d Commandment – Taking the Name of Yahweh in Vain]
[4th Commandment – Keep the Sabbath Holy]
The first four Commandments are considered to be vital to our relationship with Elohim. The last six Commandments concern our relationship with others. This is why, when asked what the greatest commandment is, Yeshua is able to embody all ten in his short answer:
37 Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. 38 This is the first and great commandment. 39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.
(Matthew 22:37–39)
[5th Commandment – Honor Your Father and Mother]
[6th Commandment – Do Not Murder]
[7th Commandment – No Adultery]
[8th Commandment – Do Not Steal]

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